photo credit: Monkey Business "go bitch, arrest two seconds with your salad. In truth, you're scared to death, as we all! "
Tokophobie .
I discovered this word and its meaning today.
It means "fear of childbirth."
I read an article about it in the Nouvel Observateur (p.80) this week, very informative. Article
repeating the now famous words of Florence Foresti "childbirth is a bit our Vietnam to us."
("If we told people the mouth ... that is happiness, Humanity could be extinguished in just 50 years ")
The tokophobie, if you read the definition in Doctissimo was fairly well described by doctors in the 19th century. Pregnant women were all more or less terrified the idea of giving birth for the first time, or relive the suffering already endured during previous births.
Today, despite huge advances in medicine, this real phobia, from Anglo-Saxon, would be more increasingly widespread in France.
The risk of leaving his life is almost nonexistent now, yet the idea of childbirth in some women causes terror pushing them, or they would never bear children for fear of being maimed or, for those who have already gone to just a single child. Those who cross the pitch anyway often require a caesarean, frightened by the suffering and the consequences severe enough to a natural birth vaginally.
Physicians are seeing more and more such women, obsessed with control, who want to suffer the least possible, do not suffer bleeding and puerperium never very comfortable. Number of stars (Victoria Beckham, Claudia Schiffer etc ...) refuse vaginal delivery, they are called "too posh to push" (too much class to push)
And more and more women requesting caesarean section to their surgeon, terrorized by the idea of "damaged", thinking often first to be well ahead of the safety of their child.
Thus, the syndrome "Rachida Dati" is increasingly common, where women prefer to control everything from childbirth, "well done quick" brace the date a holiday, do it in a few hours and leave at home soon for a cosmopolitan drink with friends and try their new sexy lingerie with John Ken- (permission, I laugh in their sleeves) .
The problem, according to the Nouvel Observateur, is that this desire to control a delivery from A to Z, as one would hold a perfect marriage, "all beautiful rosy" is often doomed to failure.
According to doctors, lying to women for 20 years: they now believe that childbirth is painless thanks to the epidural. They fall often high, after the ultra-protected pregnancy, when they give birth: many of them fear the loss of dignity against the husband, still in control and not pushing really.
Now childbirth, that's it: blood, pain, sweat, and a 3 kg baby who must eventually leave (and two-three things not super glam, we will not specify).
Certainly, the birth of my children was a wonderful time in my life. But childbirth, not exactly (but I do not hate non-plus)
Stop with these stupid phrases "that is happiness" (previously mentioned) and "delivery is the best day the life of a woman. "
Even with the epidural, it suffers tremors of pain on the desk, pale complexion, fainting, vomiting, feeling banging their heads against the wall so the contractions are unbearable, feeling that one never knows how to move this mass of several kilograms: the reality of work before the epidural to take effect (and it lasts a few hours)
So, far be it from me to say that he must suffer (you know me!), on the contrary, the proposed techniques such as epidural, in my case, just SAVED me.
But as the doctors say in the newspaper, women who give birth will often lack realism. They are lulled into a little cocoon for 9 months and may be shocked by the ending. Rather than trying
absolutely control everything, it's better to be aware that childbirth and its aftermath are a physical test. Knowing the reality of what will happen to us to better manage time. And trust the doctors, let go, forget his little person too, it helps a lot. And even if it seems to "lose a little dignity before Prince Charming". It's worth it anyway.
And so many women do a second child after having lived through these hard times ... It is also because the brain is well done: the pains of childbirth, I do not know through which hormone, are quickly forgotten.
And then it also because we know that suffering does not last long. Several hours, a few days at most. That makes that women do not become crazy, just! They are very, very often, then happily. Yes, yes!
Go! During delivery, consider all women who have done this before you, or who are giving birth at the same time, you, deep inside you, this will awaken ancestral memory. Personally, it gave me strength crazy! Go
, courage girls.
Advice?
for fans, everything is very poetically summarized in this video few seconds Oh okay if you can laugh! -
(Note:-added January 26, 2011 - I think I found a book on the net that describes exactly this topic: born, the ideal of giving birth to the reality of the birth )
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